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Welcome to Season One: Becoming Yourself Again.
If you're new here, these first three conversations are the perfect place to begin. Together, they'll introduce the foundation of The Soft but Savage Method and the journey toward rebuilding with greater self-trust.
Episode 2: The Real Reason Boundaries Feel So Uncomfortable
If you've ever felt guilty, selfish, or anxious after setting a boundary, you're not alone. In this episode, Mickey explores why boundaries feel so uncomfortable, how childhood conditioning and people-pleasing patterns shape our responses, and why discomfort isn't proof you're doing something wrong. Learn how to navigate guilt, trust yourself, and create healthier relationships without abandoning your own needs.
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If this episode resonates with you, I've created a companion guide to help you begin putting these ideas into practice.
📖 Boundaries Are Beautiful
A practical guide to understanding why boundaries feel so uncomfortable, releasing guilt, and learning to protect your peace with greater confidence and self-trust.
Learn more here: https://softbutsavage25.systeme.io/boundariesarebeautifulorderform
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Episode 3: You Don't Need More Confidence—You Need More Self-Trust
So many women believe confidence is the missing piece, but what if confidence isn't the real problem? In this episode, Mickey explains the difference between confidence and self-trust, why waiting to feel confident often keeps us stuck, and how learning to trust ourselves can transform the way we make decisions, set boundaries, and move through life's biggest transitions.
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Episode 4: The First Place You Learned Your Needs Didn't Matter
What if the patterns showing up in your life today didn't begin in adulthood? In this episode, we explore the first place many women learn that their needs don't matter—and how understanding those early messages can help you replace self-blame with self-compassion as you begin rebuilding trust in yourself.
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Episode 5: How to Stop Seeking Permission From Everyone Around You
Why do we spend so much of our lives waiting for permission to be ourselves? In this episode, Mickey explores where permission-seeking begins, why it quietly undermines self-trust, and how reclaiming your own voice can change the way you make decisions, set boundaries, and build a life that feels authentically yours.
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Episode 6: Why People Pleasing Isn't Kindness
People-pleasing isn't a personality trait—it's often a survival strategy. In this episode, we explore the difference between genuine kindness and self-abandonment, why so many women lose touch with their own needs, and how self-trust begins when your compassion finally includes you.
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Episode 7: The Difference Between Peace & Avoidance
What if the peace you've been protecting isn't really peace at all? In this episode, we explore why avoiding difficult conversations often leads to resentment and disconnection, how emotional safety creates space for honesty, and why keeping the peace should never require losing yourself.
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Episode 8: The Loneliness of Transition
Leaving behind the life you've always known can feel surprisingly lonely—even when you know you're moving in the right direction. In this episode, we explore why growth often feels isolating, how to stop mistaking unfamiliarity for danger, and what it looks like to trust yourself through the in-between. If you've ever wondered whether you're the only one feeling this way, this conversation is for you.
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Episode 9: The Life You Want Will Probably Disappoint Someone
What happens when the life that's right for you disappoints someone else? In this episode, we explore why other people's disappointment can feel so overwhelming, how to stop carrying responsibility for everyone else's feelings, and how to trust yourself even when others don't understand your choices.
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Episode 10: Creating a Life You Actually Want
Creating a life that feels like yours starts with getting honest about what you actually want. In this episode, we explore how to reconnect with your desires, stop waiting for permission, and begin building the life you want through the small, intentional choices you make every day.
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Episode 11: The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong One
Being the strong one can become such a familiar role that you stop noticing how much you’re carrying. In this episode, we explore the hidden cost of always having it together, why receiving support can feel so uncomfortable, and what it means to redefine strength in a way that leaves room for your own needs, vulnerability, and connection.
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Episode 12: What Stability Actually Feels Like
Stability isn’t a life where nothing ever shakes you. In this episode, we explore why peace can feel unfamiliar when you’re used to uncertainty, what emotional growth actually looks like when you’re triggered, and how self-trust allows you to stop depending on certainty from the world around you. Because real stability isn’t knowing what happens next—it’s trusting yourself to meet whatever does.
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Episode 13: The Small Decisions That Change Everything
Big life changes rarely happen in one dramatic moment. More often, they’re built through the small choices you make every day—the moments when you listen to yourself, honor what you know, and choose differently than you have before. In this episode, we’re talking about how those seemingly small decisions become the foundation of self-trust and, little by little, begin to change your life.
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Meet Your Host
Hi, I'm Mickey. I'm a coach, speaker, author, mom of five, and grandma of seven. Through The Soft but Savage Method, I help women navigate life's biggest transitions with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace.
After rebuilding my own life from the inside out, I created this podcast because I believe women don't need more pressure to have it all figured out—they need honest conversations, practical tools, and a place to reconnect with themselves.